If kids are 'better off,' does it matter whether they are adopted or abducted?

[Birth Mother,] First Mother Forum: If kids are 'better off,' does it matter whether they are adopted or abducted?:


“But aren’t they better off”? That’s the question that’s always asked when people learn about the possibility that a child adopted illegally may be returned to his original family. The unstated hubris is that children are always better off with middle class American families than say, with a single Dad in Virginia, poor parents in rural China, or a couple in impoverished Guatemala.

This is How Georgia DCF treats our enlisted fathers

This is How Georgia DCF treats our enlisted fathers « How Child Protection Services Buys and Sells Our Children:

September 25, 2011 yvonnemason

I just got this in my in box. This man who is serving our country and who is working to keep the same people safe who are abusing him and his children is at his wits end. He needs an attorney someone who is in his corner. Georgia DCF has destroyed this family on more than one level. They should be ashamed and criminally prosecuted for their actions.

Is there anyone out there who will stand up for this solider who will fight for him and his children while he fights for us?

“I read these stories and I know it to be true. I am a US Army Soldier stationed at Fort Stewart GA. I will admit things where not great in my home but nothing and I mean NOTHING compares to the HELL Liberty County DFCS put my kids through. First they lied to me about helping. They play parents against eachother making you look so bad. My oldest daughter told many people my two babies where being abused. I could see it in there eyes they were just righting this is bring tears to my eyes. They were so ill looking. One week later after I went down everyday to demand they look into the matter my childrent were removed from the home and placed in another. I asked why they were removed and was told because the Foster Mother couldn’t deal with me. They kept telling me you don’t need a lawyer. I was told its my fault my kids were there. I schycological however it spelled anyways the Judge ordered as soon as it comes back he wanted to see it. They scheduled me an appointment out for 6 months. I was devistated well I called the place my self and got an appointment 8 days later. The lady told me that when DFCS had wanted it. O but guess what I couldnt look at my outcome nope. They told me my sychological said this and it said that. Come to find out it never said that, the Army had pulled it for a trial I was involved in. I was told that it said I was abusive that I need mental help it never said that. When my sychological came back they did not take it to judge nope. I had been dragged in to court sometimes once a week always praying that would be the day. Everytime I went to visit my kids I would just be tormented. The Foster mother would start basicly throwing my kids at me when I went to pick them up at DFCS O I had to be watched. I have NEVER hit one of my kids in there life. I am a great Father to my kids. I was told I needed a Domestic Violence assesment. So I went one better I took a 3 day Federaly sactioned Domestic Violence class giving by The US Army. Well my case plan complete nope they told me I still needed assesment so I go and try to get one MR D we will Pay no I went there paper work not done. Lady says to me she knows what needs to be signed and then pulls me to side and tells me to be very carefull and not to trust them. She could see my eyes swelling up with tears. I go again two days later DCFS MR D we just decided you need to take Domestic Violence Class. I said I have one its Federal Aproved. NO MR D you need to go to ours go sign up for it here. I go to sign up its 14 week class one hour every wendsday. I was pissed. I tell you I cried everyday. Everyday it got to the point I wanted to KILL my self. They would change case workers on me so fast so fast I barley know there names. I think they do that purposley. I finly got to the point where I would tell them off and hang up. They kept pulling me into court makeing lies about me. Telling the judge my kids don’t even want to live with me. I tell the only thing that kept me from ripping thier heads off was the love for my kids. I did not want them taking it out on them. Mr D your x says you drink we think you should take drug and achool assesment. O jesus what now. I went to the Army took a drug and Alcool assesment. GUESS what I was told I dont need to be enrolled in drug and alchool class. GUESS what I told them to enroll me anyways and I passed all blood tests everything. I did not tell DFCS I went. I handed them the report saying I did not have a problem. Well MR D you just talked your way through that we think you should go. I pulled the completion out of my folder and she was pissed. Well you need to go to ours.HA I told her I know the judge will except this dont even I know he will except my Domestic Violence class to but hell I was already taken the ones they wanted me to do. I was denied visits to Doctors for months Denied there medical records wich I was still paying on. Got the letter of them saying NO and they told Doctor they didnt know. Its there trick its a tactict they use. Well when I got my kids back Doctor told me they violated my hippa rights he didnt fall under there clause o they pay everyone in there circle it a buisness. HOW THE HELL CAN THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT GIVE GEORGIA MONEY THEY DONT EVEN FOLLOW THERE RULES. THE GOVERNER SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES. I FIGHT FOR MY COUNTRY AND I THINK WHAT THE HELL AM I FIGHTING FOR. IS THE US REALLY THIS DIRTY. I want to SUE DFCS but lawyers really dont want to sue state. I tell you what I am JOHN DRESEL look me up on internet I have given many years in Iraq defending my country who cares nothing about me. I have many awards but that dont matter you can just see I’m a loving person. If there is ANY ONE WHO WANTS TO SUE DFCS IN THE STATE OF GEORGIA OR TAKE MY CASE I HAVE EVERY DOCUMENT FROM THE VERY START I WANT YOU TO CALL ME 912-980-0205″

Order Of Protection: And Justice For All?

Joseph E. Cordell: Order Of Protection: And Justice For All?:

The misuse of orders of protection by women when going through a divorce is one of the more prevalent and unfortunate trends in family law. A system that was designed to protect against abuse is itself being abused.

Martin family argues for legal funding at fatality inquiry

Martin family argues for legal funding at fatality inquiry | Provincial News | St. Albert Gazette:

The family of a 13-year-old girl who died shortly after leaving foster care argued Wednesday the government should pay legal fees for their representation at a provincial fatality inquiry looking into her death.

'Cash for kids': Judge who took $2m from jail owner to imprison children is himself locked up

'Cash for kids': Judge who took $2m from jail owner to imprison children is himself locked up | Mail Online:

A former judge who locked up thousands of innocent children in a scam that made him and a co-conspirator more than $2 million has been jailed for 17-and-a-half-years.

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So Young and So Many Pills

Prescription Drug Use in Children and Teens - WSJ.com:

Gage Martindale, who is 8 years old, has been taking a blood-pressure drug since he was a toddler. "I want to be healthy, and I don't want things in my heart to go wrong," he says.

The NH House Redress Committee and the Sliver of Hope

NH Attorney Jaye Rancourt an Unethical Attorney: The NH House Redress Committee and the Sliver of Hope, the Shimmer of Light, will Expose a Corrupt Family Court System or allow us to Embrace and support the hard work of the Judiciary and the other officers of the court.:

One side fights hard so you can hear the story………. Fighting Hard for the Kids that need to be heard and have been hurt by those …………

That are on the Other Side……

The side that fights hard to make sure you never hear the story ……………
There is yet another side - A side that sees the benefits of the NH Redress Committe and the benefit of oversight for both sides.

The story of the why the judiciary and officials of the courts would rather hurt the kids, than make decisions that will help them to become the happy, well adjusted, individuals, they deserve an opportunity to be and who will someday become parents themselves.

Why such extreme differences in opinion when it comes to kids?

Why do the judge’s, marital masters, lawyers, GAL’s and others who benefit from the courts want to cover-up their process, ideology and decisions?

Why don’t they want a light to shine down on them? A bright light, letting all who look in see just how much they do to advocate for what’s in the best interest of the child? So everyone can see first hand and know with certainty the goodness they promote for the sake of the children? As they profess they do and want us to believe.

Instead, there is resistance. Will something deep, dark and sinister about the system be exposed if the public is allowed to look into this world?

What if the participants, the victims and the supporters of the children are allowed to have a voice? Will they expose the unthinkable?

Will we find that the system is broken and corrupt and doesn’t work, needs an overhaul and is extremely harmful to the children it professes to be protecting? Will we find that these judges, masters and lawyers and others have really known about this all along, but, have chosen to keep this a big secret, a secret for decades so they can reap great rewards from it?

After all, what would happen if one day they all woke up and the family court system worked in such a way that judges, masters , GAL’s and lawyers weren’t allowed to antagonize or promote ill will between the parties involved in the cases before them?

Isn’t taken advantage of a bad situation by making it worse, gaining from it and then gaining from it again and again, unethical and immoral at the very least?

Aren’t these questions that are being asked worthy of answers?

Why do so many involved with the courts think or better yet, why should they expect people to take them at their word, at face value with nothing to back it up? Nothing other than what we do is as wholesome as apple pie and we should just trust in that.

What evidence exists that what they do is in the name of the children, in the best interest of the children, when day in and out we hear stories otherwise?

The cases before the Redress Committee are alarming.

How many children are estranged from a loving parent because of an emotionally unstable custodial parent and an all too acquiescing family court filled with, judges, masters, lawyers, guardians, and programs all standing by waiting to gain financially?

How does the court system, except in extreme cases of documented and proven abuse, not just hearsay nonsense spewing from the mouths of those who have a vested interest and stake in continuing the animosity, intervene and deny children their right to both parents?

Who are these people and what is this system they call justice?

An Honest Judicial System would welcome this Redress Committee and would welcome the opportunity to show the world that there is nothing to the claims of bias, money laundering of attorney’s fees and the continued animosity the Judicial system helps create, certainly fosters and certainly encourages in these contentious litigations.

The courts have a history and a pattern of rewarding and pandering to one parent’s bad behavior by excluding the other parent and even eliminating them all together from a child’s life.

How do those who play in the judicial arena justify the taking of children from a loving parent and then holding them ransom by forcing unfair, financially debilitating, court ordered conditions on that parent if they ever want contact again? Conditions, the court and it’s officers know are simply a way to guarantee a set up of failures that will only force continued litigation?

Since when did the mandate being a “Perfect Parent” slip in and become the bar that the courts use to assess the value of a parents ability to be a parent?

We all have parents, whether our parents stayed together or not. None, not one is perfect. Most, if not all, only ever wanted the best for their children.

What makes this any different?

It’s time for some accountability where there has been none. There is much to gain by system that promotes animosity and gets rewards from promoting that animosity.

The best interest of the child has been lost in the shuffle of power hungry, money hungry court officials.

They don’t care about the children. They don’t care if families go bankrupt. If they did they would not allow children to be separated from either parent.

Regardless of whether the principle is believed or accepted, the bottom line is, the reality is, when one parent is allowed to drive up the legal fees because they want to fight, fight and fight some more, rather than let the children be part of the other parent’s life, that should be unacceptable. Fight so hard, that money is not a deterrence, nor is it an object of concern. They are negligent. They are not acting like a loving parent, concerned for the welfare and best development of the child.

And that’s when the courts should step in and start acting on behalf of the children.

That’s when the courts should get involved and not pander to that parent. Instead they do. Why?

One parent’s irrational thinking that inflicting revenge or punishment on another, by taking away the child, for some real or imaginary injustice inflicted upon them, somehow makes things right if the court panders to them?

Putting the child in the middle and taking away the child’s god given right to have two loving and caring parents should not be rewarded by the courts pandering to them, it should be admonished.

This behavior the courts and it’s officers protect and pander to comes with a cost to the very children that they are using as a pawn.

For every $1.00 spent on an attorney, or court fee, or court ordered program - $1.00 is taken out of the pot of money that could have been better spent on the child and the child’s future.

Judges and masters, through the use of financial affidavits mandatorily filled out and provided to the courts before EVERY court hearing , sworn affidavits of the finances of the individuals, see exactly how much money is spent on legal fees in each and every single court hearing that comes before them. They know first hand whether it’s been $1,000 or $100,000. They also know how much is in the bank, the equity in the house, the cars the parties drive and all other assets and aspects of finances of the parties.
When lawyers and judges – allow ordinary middle income people to spend 10’s of thousands of dollars, they are aware they don’t have, on legal costs – money they fully know the parties can’t financially afford, because also listed on these financial affidavits are the parties income, they should be found to be incompetent of performing their duties as officers of the court.

And yet, they do allow this to happen day in and day out, because the alternative of allowing new court action would be enforcing the orders already place. Orders the judges and masters put into place to begin with.

These officer’s of the courts usually don’t attempt to enforce their own orders unless it works against the non-custodial parent. Instead, they make new orders that they know they won’t enforce.

Why parents can’t get the courts to enforce their own orders is unjust in and of itself.

Why the courts don’t find an offending parent, and yes it is usually the custodial parent, in CONTEMPT for violating court orders becomes a mystery.

Why have any court orders to begin with, if enforcement of the offenders of those orders, yes usually women, go unpunished and are given no incentive, monetarily or otherwise, to stop the offensive behavior of not abiding by court orders they themselves asked for and were awarded.

What example does this NH Court believe it sets for children caught in the middle of these COURT GAMES? That it’s OK to violate the court orders if you are the custodial parent and keep the children and VISITOR parent away from each other, so long as you believe you have a good reason, real or imagined?

Remember, before the courts and the lawyers the people involved were a family. The children were exposed to two sets of values, personalities and parents, good or bad.

How many of the court cases in NH Courts right now, had any state agency involved prior to separation or divorce that intervened on behalf that family?

How many cases in front of the NH REDRESS Committee, had state agency involvement ONLY, after the courts and lawyers got involved and ONLY after the custodial parent refused to abide by the courts orders put in place?

How many involve false accusations made after the fact, by the custodial parent and are unfounded?

How many involve a custodial parent that did not to share custody of the children right from the beginning of the separation and wanted it that way?

How many proposed a non-custodial parent should be given a “VISITATION” schedule, “VISITOR in MY CHILD’S LIFE” status, of nothing more than alternating weekends in every month?

VISITOR status and still the offending custodial parent wants even less contact and continues to do everything to undermine even that little bit of time spent with the children.

How many children have been forced into “VISITING” the other parent?

Does anyone really believe the terminology being used is “parenting schedule”?

Just make sure that CHILD SUPPORT keeps coming. That’s seems the biggest concern for all – the court’s, judges, masters, guardians and anyone else connected that has a money interest in the outcome.

Not a pretty picture, because that is the children’s reality and most of us would rather put blinders on than deal with it.

When someone violates their probation, because they didn’t know, didn’t care, misunderstood, thought it best to handle things their way__________, fill in with blank with whatever excuse you want, DOES THE COURT REWRITE THE AGREEMENT and take all the excuses into consideration whilst doing so?

NO. Then why do they do it now? Custodial parent doesn’t mean BETTER PARENT.

It becomes a vicious a cycle, with a formula guaranteed to continue to promote hostility, animosity for the parties involved and huge payouts for the judicial system.

If there was nothing to gain it makes no sense the courts and attorneys would promote animosity when there was nothing they could collect from the parties.

The lawyers and judges feed the behavior of the offending parent, create the atmosphere that they will look out for the best interest of the children, which reinforces the offending parents bad parenting to begin with.

Yes, it is bad parenting when one parent pits the other parent against the children. Good reason or not.

Children have a right to freely and without strings attached be able to love both parents.

It’s normal and it’s healthy.

It’s not normal and it’s not healthy when a parent can not, will not, refuses to separate the children from the adult relationship, and refuses to, or is incapable of fostering a good relationship and good communication between the children and the other parent.

Then justifies it by imagining and then projecting that somehow the other parent is no good, inferior and the children are somehow better off without having to deal with that other parent.

That in and of itself is a form of child abuse. It’s emotional abuse. And our courts are allowing it to happen day in and day out, they condone and they reward it.

What’s the motivation for that?

When a mother lists on her financial affidavit, income of $35,000 a year in one column, and virtually no other assets in the other and then lists an outstanding bill of $50,000 owed to her attorney, not counting the latest t court hearings, what does that say?

How many years of child support payments does that calculate out too?

Is that responsible? Is that a responsible parent? Is that responsible parenting? Should that be condoned by the court? Rewarded? Allowed to continue? Pandered too? Accepted?

According to Motions filed, she’s in court that day for two reasons, one to try to get her child support increased and the other to prevent any further contact between the father and the child, already so limited by her behavior to be almost non-existent to begin with.

Neither action justified, yet the Motion is still brought to the court by the custodial parents attorney because that’s what the custodial parent wants done.

The children become a pawn, no more than mere property to be used for a claim to more money. In this instance, hopefully, more money in the pocket of the custodial parent, certainly more money in the pocket of the attorney.

So at the expense of the child the courts have allowed the lawyer to continue the litigation, taking that $50,000 plus the $1,000’s that have already been paid, plus what hasn’t been billed yet, money that should be going to the child and that child’s future but instead ends up in the pockets of the lawyer with no reasonable or logical explanation.

Interestingly, the courts also say the law does not provide that a non-custodial parent has the right to know how child support money is spent. Wonder why that would be? Is it simply an attempt to cover-up what really goes on? Why would one parent not be accountable while the other is?

When the judge or master, as in this case, has in front of them the monthly child support payments provided by the ex equaling the monthly loan payment to the ex’s attorney, it speaks of irresponsibility to the very people these hypocrites sit from the bench and try to say they are thinking of – the children.

How is it in the best of the children to take away their future because one parent wants to fight the other parent for custody or visitation when there are no legal or valid reasons for doing so?

If the courts aren’t happy with a little scrutiny perhaps it’s time they clean their house.

Exposing what goes on behind the scenes will be a win-win situation for all concerned.

Either a corrupt system will be exposed and hopefully righted or a great system will stay a great system because the transparency exists to keep it that way.