What Kinds of Emotional Issues will my Adopted Child Face during Adolescence?

What Kinds of Emotional Issues will my Adopted Child Face during Adolescence?:

It's easy to claim that an adopted child is "just like any other child," but adopted children and adoptive parents know that's not necessarily true – especially when an adopted child reaches adolescence. On top of the usual slate of "typical" teen and adolescent issues surrounding a child's passage to adulthood, children adopted in infancy or as a very young child are also very likely to experience their own unique set of emotional struggles – and in turn, adoptive parents are likely to encounter their own questions about how best to support and guide their adopted child through such a challenging time.

Most research suggests that children adopted during infancy may not begin to question or "probe" their familial identity and their "natural" roots until the onset of adolescence – the time when children begin to explore, challenge and question their identity, beliefs and values. In other words, the physical and emotional conditions of adolescence tend to serve as a natural trigger for deeper emotional issues related to adoption.

Feelings of grief, loss, abandonment, rejection and even guilt or shame may characterize your teen's attitude towards the fact that he/she is adopted, even if he/she previously seemed well-adjusted and "fine" with being adopted. If your teen begins to express these types of feelings – or if his/her behavior seems to indicate issues more serious than "typical teen" behavior (suicidal tendencies, significant withdrawal from family and peer groups, loss of interest in favorite activities or drastic change in social group or academic performance, for example) – it's important to understand that this may be a sign that deeper emotional concerns over adoption may be surfacing in your teen.

In addition to seeking post-adoption support in the form of professional counseling, family therapy and even camps or schools equipped to properly support teens dealing with behavioral and emotional issues associated with adoption, it's also important to understand where your adopted teen's feelings may be coming from. Grief, for instance, is a fundamental part of the adoption process, and while it may take years for your adopted child to recognize or fully deal with his/her grief, it's only natural that while he/she may enjoy a great deal of happiness as part of your family, he/she has also "lost" his/her own natural parents and family.

Your adopted teen may also experience a sense of loss in addition to grief over his/her natural family – especially as he/she begins to examine questions of identity in an effort to define "who he/she is." Again, while you may have tended to view adoption as a positive, joyous event, it's important to appreciate the fact that for all your teen's gratitude, he/she may also feel that he/she has "lost" his "natural identity," and as a result, he/she may even begin to express a never-before-articulated desire to find a birth parent or parents.

It's also normal for your teen to feel angry or to feel that he/she was rejected or abandoned by his/her birth parent as a result of being adopted. As a parent, you may understand or sympathize with the birth parent's decision to allow the adoption of your child, but as an adolescent, your child may need some time – and open, positive support from you – to come to terms with his/her adoption in a way that is healthy and constructive. As a part of this process, it may help you to understand that teens who were formerly very open about their adoption may suddenly seem ashamed or guilty about the fact that their birth parents decided to "give them up." Again, maintaining an open, positive and communicative relationship with your teen during this stage of his/her adolescence is crucial: most adoption research suggests that the more supportive and open adoptive parents are about the issues their adopted child or teen faces, the more successful the adopted teen will be at successfully and constructively working through these concerns.

New Hampshire PROTOCOLS RELATIVE TO ABUSE AND NEGLECT CASES AND PERMANENCY PLANNING

I have been doing a little more research pertaining to NH DCYF and the NH Court's and just for the heck of it decided to read through the Protocols Relative to Abuse and Neglect. Under Protocol 7 ISSUES FOR THE COURT TO CONSIDER AT THE ADOPTION HEARING,

No.2, I read the Judge has to ascertain that the appeal process has expired. I know in my granddaughter Isabella's case, there was a pending appeal when the Judge granted her adoption to the stranger's.

No.4, the Judge is supposed to review the applicability of the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA). There is no way of my family knowing if he did. I'm sure Nashua DCYF kept it a secret that both Isabella and Austin are part Indian. EX CPSW Anna the Homewrecker was well aware of our Indian heritage, yet the Indian Council was NEVER notified. Just a little more deceit used against our family by the almighty DCYF.

No. 5, confirm that the adoptive parents have been advised of Medical background's on the child's parent's, Religion and Ethnicity. Put it this way, they don't have a clue. DCYF didn't even know half of my daughter's medical condition's. Hence, there was NO investigation before Isabella was stolen. For that matter, they have NO clue as to ALL the medical conditions of our family and past generation's. Isabella's Ethnic background has been denied since the beginning. The Ex CPSW told my daughter NOT to tell anyone that Isabella is half Dominican. Hmm, I wonder why. I'm sure the strangers know by now. Why should Isabella be denied the right to know her true ethnicity? I'm sure she isn't being raised Catholic either. The ex CPSW was well aware from the start my daughter wanted Isabella baptized Catholic, but refused to let us get her baptized.

No. 6, ensure that adoptive parents understand that adoption is permanent and irreversible. Sorry to have to inform you, but this isn't true. An adoption CAN be reversed due to fraud, in which there was plenty of fraud in Both Austin's and Isabella's cases, and extraordinary circumstances. I take that to mean any one of the many deceitful practices used to steal my grandchildren.

No.7, any other information the court deems necessary. I wonder if DCYF told the Judge everything about the stranger's before granting adoption of Isabella and her recently adopted half sister's. I doubt it, but then again, the Judge is just as deceitful as DCYF.



NEW HAMPSHIRE DISTRICT COURT
COURT IMPROVEMENT PROJECT
IN COOPERATION WITH
THE FAMILY DIVISION
AND
N.H. PROBATE COURT
LINK

Revised April 2003

PROTOCOL 7 ISSUES FOR THE COURT TO CONSIDER AT THE ADOPTION HEARING

At the adoption hearing, the judge shall review the petition and all documents and should:

(1) confirm that the court has proper jurisdiction;

(2) ascertain that parental rights have been voluntarily relinquished or that parental rights have been terminated and that the appeal process for the latter has expired;

(3) ensure that any consents to adoption are provided, pursuant to RSA 170-B:5, including the consent of the person to be adopted when that person is twelve (12) years of age or older;

(4) review the applicability of the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA);

(5) confirm that the adoptive parents have been advised, pursuant to RSA 170-B:15,III-b, based on information that is reasonably available at the time, of information on the age, medical and personal backgrounds of the birth parents and the child to be adopted. Such information may include, but is not limited to, the ethnic and religious background, as is reasonably known;

(6) ensure that adoptive parents understand that adoption is permanent and irreversible; and

(7) any other information the court deems necessary.

CT DCF Worker Breaks Down Wakes Up Comes Forward

CT DCF Worker Breaks Down Wakes Up Comes Forward | Corrupt CT:


Posted by rBg on Aug 29th, 2011 in DCF or CPS,
In a surprising turn of events CorruptCT.com has been approached by an active DCF worker that says she can no longer sleep soundly with what she knows and is asked to do. As promised we have guaranteed that no matter what her name and location will not be disclosed to anybody and in return we have been promised a 1 on 1 interview with her.
She has promised with the information that she knows the State of CT will no longer be able to turn a blind eye on the actions of the Department of Children and Families. Keep in mind, this is not just things she has done but things management has forced her to do, tactics they are taught and trained to use on a daily basis to disarm and take advantage of lower class and income families. The families that have no means to fight back, and then how to move forward for the kill and how to strip the family of all their civil rights and community support while stealing the children.
She was very hesitant to speak over the phone so we have a meeting setup for later on this week where CorruptCT.com has been promised first hand experiences of the corruption behind the DCF. This includes but is not limited to classified documents the public is never supposed to see, the truth behind a higher profile case that took place last year that she was part of and the real leaders of this disgusting child kidnapping ring, how they have blackmailed families into giving up their children and why the government wants these children so bad.
All I can say is that I am so excited I will probably not sleep. This meeting is going to be a stepping stone towards bringing down the corruption within the CT DCF / CPS offices we have been waiting for. All I can hope is that other workers who like her can no longer live with the guilt and shame of what they are asked to do and will follow her lead and step forward. We are here for you and we promise the same anonymity, no one will ever find out who spoke to who, but the time is now, DCF will be no longer once the truth starts to leak out continue with their dirty and illegal tactics. The day is upon us and I am more then proud to say God bless us all and as for her bravery I will forever be indebted to her as will most of CT.

Happy Sixth Birthday to OUR Stolen Granddaughter Isabella Brooke Knightly

Your Birthday August 31, 2005

Happy sixth birthday little Princess. Another sad birthday without you. Another birthday in a houseful of stranger's, pretending to be your family. Another birthday your REAL family will celebrate your life without you by our side. We're still fighting for your return and will never stop. We didn't help bring you into this world to have you stolen and raised by stranger's. No matter what they tell you, your Mommy and Daddy and Grampie and I and ALL the rest of your REAL family always wanted you and always will. We did not let you go willingly. We've been fighting for you this whole time.
Some day you will know the truth. The truth about the stranger's raising you and your two adopted sister's. The stranger's chosen by a deceitful government agency. The stranger's who weren't blessed with their own children, so they worked with the state to take you from us. If you're as smart as your Mommy, you'll be reading all about yourself sooner than the stranger's expect. You'll be asking why you and your two sister's look nothing like the stranger's. You'll have many question's. Question's that the stranger's won't know how to answer, or you'll be told lies about your REAL family. I can't wait for the day to come when you realize you're nothing like them. If you have your Mommy's attitude, as we were told you did when you were just a baby, you'll be asking question's sooner than they think. The stranger's will have their hands full, but then again, maybe they already do. Your Mommy got her attitude early and I'm sure you're just like her.
So Happy Birthday little Princess. We will always be here for you and don't plan on going anywhere until you and your cousin Austin come home. I've posted a few pictures of you so when you find my blog, you'll know YOU are our little Isabella. We love and miss you and will never give up this fight for your return!
Love always, Grammy, Grampie, Mommy, Daddy and ALL of your REAL family xxxxxxxooooooooo

Houston mom charged in Adopted pre-teen's abortion

Houston mom charged in pre-teen's abortion - Houston Chronicle:

A Houston adoptive mother has been charged after arranging an abortion for her 12-year-old special needs daughter during a criminal investigation about whether the woman's biological son impregnated the girl.

Simon and Pippa Lansdell threatened with £5k fine because son 'plays too loudly

Simon and Pippa Lansdell threatened with £5k fine because son 'plays too loudly' | Mail Online:

"Like most boys his age, Alfie Lansdell can spend hours playing happily in his garden.
But playtime could soon be over for the boisterous four-year-old after a neighbour complained to council officials that he was too noisy.

Child welfare critic disagrees with Twin Cities' Safe Families approach

Child welfare critic disagrees with Twin Cities' Safe Families approach | StarTribune.com:

Sunday's story about the new Safe Families program, which shelters children whose parents are temporarily unable to care for them, drew criticism from Richard Wexler and his National Coalition for Child Protection Reform.
Wexler opposes the frequency with which Minnesota and other states place children in foster care due to allegations of parental abuse or neglect. While Safe Families is voluntary -- parents in crisis willingly place their kids with the program's families -- Wexler called it "sugar-coated foster care." The parents who give their children to Safe Families often are impoverished and have no other choice, he said.