MONDAY, AUGUST 9, 2010
Could foster care finance reform have a friend in high places?
I've often noted that the left is as prone to march in lockstep with the "foster care-industrial complex" as the right is to march with the military-industrial complex. So it was a pleasant surprise to come across come comments made by Bryan Samuels. Samuels used to run the Illinois Department of Children and Family Services. President Obama chose him to run the federal government's Administration on Children Youth and Families (which is a division of the Administration for Children and Families, which is a division of the federal Department of Health and Human Services).
During his confirmation hearings last October, Samuels opened the door to considering comprehensive reform of child welfare financing – not the fake reform pushed by the Child Welfare League of America and its allies, but the real kind, like the kind that helped transform child welfare in Florida.
Read the entire article at:
http://nccpr.blogspot.com/2010/08/could-foster-care-finance-reform-have.html
Isabella Brooke Knightly and Austin Gamez-Knightly
In Memory of my Loving Husband, William F. Knightly Jr. Murdered by ILLEGAL Palliative Care at a Nashua, NH Hospital
Monday, August 9, 2010
American dream ends with genocide allegation-NH
Monday, August 9, 2010
American dream ends with genocide allegation
By LYNNE TUOHY
The Associated Press
In Manchester, N.H. Federal prosecutors say Munyenyezi directed kidnapping, rape and murder during the genocide, in which about 800,000 people were killed during an ethnic bloodletting.
CONCORD – Beatrice Munyenyezi brought her three daughters to the United States from war-ravaged Rwanda in 1998 and focused on the American Dream: private schooling for her girls, a home with a swimming pool, a sport utility vehicle.
Before long, she had a $13-an-hour job at Manchester’s Housing Authority in New Hampshire, her children were enrolled in Catholic school, and she was on her way to financing a comfortable American lifestyle through mortgages, loans and credit cards.
Now the 40-year-old mother sits behind bars, held without bond while she awaits trial on federal citizenship fraud charges for allegedly lying about involvement in the 1994 Rwandan genocide, when at least 500,000 ethnic Tutsis and moderate Hutus were killed.
Authorities say she was an extremist Hutu who killed and enabled the rapes of untold Tutsi victims – not the innocent refugee she claimed to be in 1995 to gain U.S. entry, when she applied for a visa and for citizenship.
Munyenyezi has pleaded not guilty to two counts of lying to obtain U.S. citizenship on her refugee and naturalization applications, by denying any role in the Rwanda genocide. She is scheduled for trial in May 2011.
Her dream life apparently ended, it started falling apart years earlier. She filed for bankruptcy in May 2008, walking away from hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt: a $222,000 mortgage, $14,125 in student loans, $4,198 in municipal taxes and fees and $30,000 in credit card and other unsecured debt.
“She lived here for probably two years without paying her mortgage; she didn’t pay her bills for a good two years,” said Tom Prince of Manchester, who lived across the street from Munyenezi. “We all feel she took advantage.”
Assets she listed included $1,500 in a checking account, $2,000 worth of furniture and $500 in clothing. She also owned a 2000 Toyota 4Runner valued at $12,000.
Her bankruptcy lawyers did not return calls seeking comment.
In early 2003, she was sworn in as a U.S. citizen and bought a three-bedroom home on Howe Street for $190,000 in November, according to city records. She refinanced it three years later for $235,000.
She worked full time from 2001-2005 as a family services coordinator for the Manchester Housing and Redevelopment Authority. Director Dick Dunfey would not comment on Munyenyezi, citing office policy.
When she first moved in, Prince helped her clean out a backyard pool and get its filter in working order.
Next door neighbor Scott Silver helped with moving things, including her new wide-screen TV, and cleared her walkway of snow.
“She knew nothing about owning a home,” Prince said. “She never said, ‘Thank you.’”
When she didn’t need their help, Munyenyezi was quiet and kept to herself. They described her three daughters as polite, smart girls who played basketball. Now teenagers, they are living with relatives in the U.S.
Both men said they saw large scars on Munyenyezi’s shoulders and arms when she wore halter dresses. At least once a year she traveled to Africa for two to four weeks at a time, they said. Her Rav4 vanity plate was “Shalom,” her husband’s name.
Silver, a real estate agent, said he was shocked when Munyenyezi refinanced her modest home. He said she had consulted him in advance about refinancing, and he told her he didn’t think she had a shot.
“How in the world she ever did that, I don’t know,” Silver said. “She knew how to work the system.”
In a 2005 interview with New Hampshire Public Radio, Munyenyezi gave a glimpse of her determination.
“I am a fighter,” she said. “I like to be independent. I worked so hard to be here. I do what I have to do to survive.”
Last year, Munyenyezi obtained an associate’s degree in liberal arts from Manchester Community College.
By the time she filed for bankruptcy, Munyenyezi was working at Elliott Hospital in Manchester as a nurse’s aide. Leanne Quartorchi of the medical staffing firm MAS Home Care of New Hampshire considered her reliable.
Quartorchi said she was “floored” by Munyenyezi’s indictment. “She was so quiet and mild-mannered.”
Cathy Chesley, director of immigration and refugee services for Catholic Charities of Manchester, said the agency provided Munyenyezi a standard refugee allotment when she became their client in 1999.
“We didn’t provide relief to Beatrice,” Chesley said. “We didn’t have any background information (on her). We rely on the federal government for clearance of all refugees who come through.”
Federal prosecutors decline to say how Munyenyezi came to their attention. But in court documents, immigration agents describe interviews with alleged witnesses to the atrocities. A federal affidavit says Munyenyezi and her husband, Arsene Shalom Ntahobali, were extremist Hutus who participated in roadblocks and ID checks that resulted in numerous Tutsi rapes and killings.
Court papers give a graphic account of Munyeynezi allegedly striking a young Tutsi boy so hard in the head with a wooden club that he died instantly.
Ntahobali and his mother, Pauline Nyiramasuhuko, are prominent defendants in the United Nation’s international crimes tribunal on Rwanda, both charged with genocide and crimes against humanity. Incarcerated in Tanzania, they await a verdict this fall.
Munyenyezi testified as a defense witness at her husband’s trial in 2006. In her bankruptcy filing, she described herself as single but her criminal attorney, David Ruoff, said last month she was still married.
Ruoff said he may depose witnesses in Rwanda to prepare her defense.
“I’m obviously concerned about the legitimacy of any witness statements coming out of Rwanda, from what I’ve heard anecdotally from other prosecutions,” Ruoff said. “If she’s convicted and her citizenship is stripped, she’ll be deported to Rwanda and she’ll be in custody the rest of her life.”
http://www.nashuatelegraph.com/news/statenewengland/818783-227/american-dream-ends-with-genocide-allegation.html
American dream ends with genocide allegation
By LYNNE TUOHY
The Associated Press
In Manchester, N.H. Federal prosecutors say Munyenyezi directed kidnapping, rape and murder during the genocide, in which about 800,000 people were killed during an ethnic bloodletting.
CONCORD – Beatrice Munyenyezi brought her three daughters to the United States from war-ravaged Rwanda in 1998 and focused on the American Dream: private schooling for her girls, a home with a swimming pool, a sport utility vehicle.
Before long, she had a $13-an-hour job at Manchester’s Housing Authority in New Hampshire, her children were enrolled in Catholic school, and she was on her way to financing a comfortable American lifestyle through mortgages, loans and credit cards.
Now the 40-year-old mother sits behind bars, held without bond while she awaits trial on federal citizenship fraud charges for allegedly lying about involvement in the 1994 Rwandan genocide, when at least 500,000 ethnic Tutsis and moderate Hutus were killed.
Authorities say she was an extremist Hutu who killed and enabled the rapes of untold Tutsi victims – not the innocent refugee she claimed to be in 1995 to gain U.S. entry, when she applied for a visa and for citizenship.
Munyenyezi has pleaded not guilty to two counts of lying to obtain U.S. citizenship on her refugee and naturalization applications, by denying any role in the Rwanda genocide. She is scheduled for trial in May 2011.
Her dream life apparently ended, it started falling apart years earlier. She filed for bankruptcy in May 2008, walking away from hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt: a $222,000 mortgage, $14,125 in student loans, $4,198 in municipal taxes and fees and $30,000 in credit card and other unsecured debt.
“She lived here for probably two years without paying her mortgage; she didn’t pay her bills for a good two years,” said Tom Prince of Manchester, who lived across the street from Munyenezi. “We all feel she took advantage.”
Assets she listed included $1,500 in a checking account, $2,000 worth of furniture and $500 in clothing. She also owned a 2000 Toyota 4Runner valued at $12,000.
Her bankruptcy lawyers did not return calls seeking comment.
In early 2003, she was sworn in as a U.S. citizen and bought a three-bedroom home on Howe Street for $190,000 in November, according to city records. She refinanced it three years later for $235,000.
She worked full time from 2001-2005 as a family services coordinator for the Manchester Housing and Redevelopment Authority. Director Dick Dunfey would not comment on Munyenyezi, citing office policy.
When she first moved in, Prince helped her clean out a backyard pool and get its filter in working order.
Next door neighbor Scott Silver helped with moving things, including her new wide-screen TV, and cleared her walkway of snow.
“She knew nothing about owning a home,” Prince said. “She never said, ‘Thank you.’”
When she didn’t need their help, Munyenyezi was quiet and kept to herself. They described her three daughters as polite, smart girls who played basketball. Now teenagers, they are living with relatives in the U.S.
Both men said they saw large scars on Munyenyezi’s shoulders and arms when she wore halter dresses. At least once a year she traveled to Africa for two to four weeks at a time, they said. Her Rav4 vanity plate was “Shalom,” her husband’s name.
Silver, a real estate agent, said he was shocked when Munyenyezi refinanced her modest home. He said she had consulted him in advance about refinancing, and he told her he didn’t think she had a shot.
“How in the world she ever did that, I don’t know,” Silver said. “She knew how to work the system.”
In a 2005 interview with New Hampshire Public Radio, Munyenyezi gave a glimpse of her determination.
“I am a fighter,” she said. “I like to be independent. I worked so hard to be here. I do what I have to do to survive.”
Last year, Munyenyezi obtained an associate’s degree in liberal arts from Manchester Community College.
By the time she filed for bankruptcy, Munyenyezi was working at Elliott Hospital in Manchester as a nurse’s aide. Leanne Quartorchi of the medical staffing firm MAS Home Care of New Hampshire considered her reliable.
Quartorchi said she was “floored” by Munyenyezi’s indictment. “She was so quiet and mild-mannered.”
Cathy Chesley, director of immigration and refugee services for Catholic Charities of Manchester, said the agency provided Munyenyezi a standard refugee allotment when she became their client in 1999.
“We didn’t provide relief to Beatrice,” Chesley said. “We didn’t have any background information (on her). We rely on the federal government for clearance of all refugees who come through.”
Federal prosecutors decline to say how Munyenyezi came to their attention. But in court documents, immigration agents describe interviews with alleged witnesses to the atrocities. A federal affidavit says Munyenyezi and her husband, Arsene Shalom Ntahobali, were extremist Hutus who participated in roadblocks and ID checks that resulted in numerous Tutsi rapes and killings.
Court papers give a graphic account of Munyeynezi allegedly striking a young Tutsi boy so hard in the head with a wooden club that he died instantly.
Ntahobali and his mother, Pauline Nyiramasuhuko, are prominent defendants in the United Nation’s international crimes tribunal on Rwanda, both charged with genocide and crimes against humanity. Incarcerated in Tanzania, they await a verdict this fall.
Munyenyezi testified as a defense witness at her husband’s trial in 2006. In her bankruptcy filing, she described herself as single but her criminal attorney, David Ruoff, said last month she was still married.
Ruoff said he may depose witnesses in Rwanda to prepare her defense.
“I’m obviously concerned about the legitimacy of any witness statements coming out of Rwanda, from what I’ve heard anecdotally from other prosecutions,” Ruoff said. “If she’s convicted and her citizenship is stripped, she’ll be deported to Rwanda and she’ll be in custody the rest of her life.”
http://www.nashuatelegraph.com/news/statenewengland/818783-227/american-dream-ends-with-genocide-allegation.html
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Attachment Disorders And Reactive Attachment Disorder
Attachment Disorders And Reactive Attachment Disorder
posted by Dr. Hood
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Symptoms, Treatment & Hope for Children with Insecure Attachment
If you are the parent of a child with an attachment disorder, such as reactive attachment disorder, you may be physically and emotionally exhausted from trying to connect with your child, only to be met with opposition, defiance, or, maybe hardest of all, indifference. A child with insecure attachment or an attachment disorder doesn’t have the skills necessary to build meaningful relationships. Although it is never too late to treat and repair attachment difficulties, the earlier attachment issues are recognized, the easier they are to resolve. With the right tools, and a healthy dose of time, effort, patience, and love, attachment repair can and does happen.
Children with attachment disorders or other attachment problems have difficulty connecting to others and managing their own emotions. This results in a lack of trust and self-worth, a fear of getting close to anyone, anger, and a need to be in control. A child with an attachment disorder feels unsafe and alone.
So why do some children develop attachment disorders while others don’t? The answer has to do with the attachment process, which relies on the interaction of both parent and child.
Attachment disorders are the result of negative experiences in this early relationship. If young children feel repeatedly abandoned, isolated, powerless, or uncared for—for whatever reason—they will learn that they can’t depend on others and the world is a dangerous and frightening place.
Reactive attachment disorder and other attachment problems occur when children have been unable to consistently connect with a parent or primary caregiver. This can happen for many reasons:
A baby cries and no one responds or offers comfort.
A baby is hungry or wet, and they aren’t attended to for hours.
No one looks at, talks to, or smiles at the baby, so the baby feels alone.
A young child gets attention only by acting out or displaying other extreme behaviors.
A young child or baby is mistreated or abused.
Sometimes the child’s needs are met and sometimes they aren’t. The child never knows what to expect.
The infant or young child is hospitalized or separated from his or her parents.
A baby or young child is moved from one caregiver to another (can be the result of adoption, foster care, or the loss of a parent).
The parent is emotionally unavailable because of depression, an illness, or a substance abuse problem.
As the examples show, sometimes the circumstances that cause the attachment problems are unavoidable. But the child is too young to understand what has happened and why. To a young child, it just feels like no one cares and they lose trust in others and the world becomes an unsafe place.
Attachment problems fall on a spectrum, from mild problems that are easily addressed to the most serious form, known as reactive attachment disorder.
The earlier you spot the symptoms of insecure attachment and take steps to repair them, the better. With early detection, you can avoid a more serious problem. Caught in infancy, attachment problems are often easy to correct with the right help and support.
Avoids eye contact
Doesn’t smile
Doesn’t reach out to be picked up
Rejects your efforts to calm, soothe, and connect
Doesn’t seem to notice or care when you leave them alone
Cries inconsolably
Doesn’t coo or make sounds
Doesn’t follow you with his or her eyes
Isn’t interested in playing interactive games or playing with toys
Spend a lot of time rocking or comforting themselves
It’s important to note that the early symptoms of insecure attachment are similar to the early symptoms of other issues such as ADHD and autism. If you spot any of these warning signs, make an appointment with your pediatrician to determine what the problem may be.
It’s common to feel frustration, anxiety, and even anger when faced with a crying baby—especially if your baby wails for hours on end and won’t calm down. Equally frustrating is a baby who seems indifferent, who won’t cuddle or make eye contact with you. In these situations, you need to find ways to get your own stress into balance. When you’re calm and centered, you’ll be better able to figure out what’s going on with your child and soothe his or her cries.
Read: When Baby Won’t Stop Crying: How to Comfort and Soothe an Upset Baby
Children with reactive attachment disorder have been so disrupted in early life that their future relationships are also impaired. They have difficulty relating to others and are often developmentally delayed. Reactive attachment disorder is common in children who have been abused, bounced around in foster care, lived in orphanages, or taken away from their primary caregiver after establishing a bond.
An aversion to touch and physical affection. Children with reactive attachment disorder often flinch, laugh, or even say “Ouch” when touched. Rather than producing positive feelings, touch and affection are perceived as a threat.
Control issues. Most children with reactive attachment disorder go to great lengths to prevent feeling helpless and remain in control. They are often disobedient, defiant, and argumentative.
Anger problems. Anger may be expressed directly, in tantrums or acting out, or through manipulative, passive-aggressive behavior. Children with reactive attachment disorder may hide their anger in socially acceptable actions, like giving a high five that hurts or hugging someone too hard.
Difficulty showing genuine care and affection. For example, children with reactive attachment disorder may act inappropriately affectionate with strangers while displaying little or no affection towards their parents.
An underdeveloped conscience. Children with reactive attachment disorder may act like they don’t have a conscience and fail to show guilt, regret, or remorse after behaving badly.
As children with reactive attachment disorder grow older, they often develop either an inhibited or a disinhibited pattern of symptoms:
Inhibited symptoms of reactive attachment disorder. The child is extremely withdrawn, emotionally detached, and resistant to comforting. The child is aware of what’s going on around him or her—hypervigilant even—but doesn’t react or respond. He or she may push others away, ignore them, or even act out in aggression when others try to get close.
Disinhibited symptoms of reactive attachment disorder. The child doesn’t seem to prefer his or her parents over other people, even strangers. The child seeks comfort and attention from virtually anyone, without distinction. He or she is extremely dependent, acts much younger than his or her age, and may appear chronically anxious.
Parenting a child with insecure attachment or reactive attachment disorder can be exhausting, frustrating, and emotionally trying. It is hard to put your best parenting foot forward without the reassurance of a loving connection with your child. Sometimes you may wonder if your efforts are worth it, but be assured that they are. With time, patience, and concerted effort, attachment disorders can be repaired. The key is to remain calm, yet firm as you interact with your child. This will teach your child that he or she is safe and can trust you.
Have realistic expectations. Helping your child with an attachment disorder may be a long road. Focus on making small steps forward and celebrate every sign of success.
Patience is essential. The process may not be as rapid as you like, and you can expect bumps along the way. But by remaining patient and focusing on small improvements, you create an atmosphere of safety for your child.
Foster a sense of humor and joy. Joy and humor go a long way toward repairing attachment problems and energizing you even in the midst of hard work. Find at least a couple of people or activities that help you laugh and feel good.
Take care of yourself and manage stress. Reduce other demands on your time and make time for yourself. Rest, good nutrition, and parenting breaks help you relax and recharge your batteries so you can give your attention to your child.
Find support and ask for help. Rely on friends, family, community resources, and respite care (if available). Try to ask for help before you really need it to avoid getting stressed to a breaking point. You may also want to consider joining a support group for parents.
Stay positive and hopeful. Be sensitive to the fact that children pick up on feelings. If they sense you’re discouraged, it will be discouraging to them. When you are feeling down, turn to others for reassurance.
If you have adopted a child, you may not have been aware of reactive attachment disorder. Anger or unresponsiveness from your new child can be heartbreaking and difficult to understand. Try to remember that your adopted child isn’t acting out because of lack of love for you. Their experience hasn’t prepared them to bond with you, and they can’t yet recognize you as a source of love and comfort. Your efforts to love them will have an impact—it just may take some time.
Safety is the core issue for children with reactive attachment disorder and other attachment problems. They are distant and distrustful because they feel unsafe in the world. They keep their guard up to protect themselves, but it also prevents them from accepting love and support. So before anything else, it is essential to build up your child’s sense of security. You can accomplish this by establishing clear expectations and rules of behavior, and by responding consistently so your child knows what to expect when he or she acts a certain way and—even more importantly—knows that no matter what happens, you can be counted on.
Set limits and boundaries. Consistent, loving boundaries make the world seem more predictable and less scary to children with attachment problems such as reactive attachment disorder. It’s important that they understand what behavior is expected of them, what is and isn’t acceptable, and what the consequences will be if they disregard the rules. This also teaches them that they have more control over what happens to them than they think.
Take charge, yet remain calm when your child is upset or misbehaving. Remember that “bad” behavior means that your child doesn’t know how to handle what he or she is feeling and needs your help. By staying calm, you show your child that the feeling is manageable. If he or she is being purposefully defiant, follow through with the pre-established consequences in a cool, matter-of-fact manner. But never discipline a child with an attachment disorder when you’re in an emotionally-charged state. This makes the child feel more unsafe and may even reinforce the bad behavior, since it’s clear it pushes your buttons.
Be immediately available to reconnect following a conflict. For children with insecure attachment and attachment disorders, conflict can be especially disturbing. After a conflict or tantrum where you’ve had to discipline your child, be ready to reconnect as soon as he or she is ready. This reinforces your consistency and love, and will help your child develop a trust that you’ll be there through thick and thin.
Own up to mistakes and initiate repair. When you let frustration or anger get the best of you or you do something you realize is insensitive, quickly address the mistake. Your willingness to take responsibility and make amends can strengthen the attachment bond. Children with reactive attachment disorder or other attachment problems need to learn that although you may not be perfect, they will be loved, no matter what.
Try to maintain predictable routines and schedules. A child with an attachment disorder won’t instinctively rely on loved ones, and may feel threatened by transition and inconsistency—for example when traveling or during school vacations. A familiar routine or schedule can provide comfort during times of change.
http://www.drjamesghoodblog.com/?p=1400
posted by Dr. Hood
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Symptoms, Treatment & Hope for Children with Insecure Attachment
If you are the parent of a child with an attachment disorder, such as reactive attachment disorder, you may be physically and emotionally exhausted from trying to connect with your child, only to be met with opposition, defiance, or, maybe hardest of all, indifference. A child with insecure attachment or an attachment disorder doesn’t have the skills necessary to build meaningful relationships. Although it is never too late to treat and repair attachment difficulties, the earlier attachment issues are recognized, the easier they are to resolve. With the right tools, and a healthy dose of time, effort, patience, and love, attachment repair can and does happen.
Children with attachment disorders or other attachment problems have difficulty connecting to others and managing their own emotions. This results in a lack of trust and self-worth, a fear of getting close to anyone, anger, and a need to be in control. A child with an attachment disorder feels unsafe and alone.
So why do some children develop attachment disorders while others don’t? The answer has to do with the attachment process, which relies on the interaction of both parent and child.
Attachment disorders are the result of negative experiences in this early relationship. If young children feel repeatedly abandoned, isolated, powerless, or uncared for—for whatever reason—they will learn that they can’t depend on others and the world is a dangerous and frightening place.
Reactive attachment disorder and other attachment problems occur when children have been unable to consistently connect with a parent or primary caregiver. This can happen for many reasons:
A baby cries and no one responds or offers comfort.
A baby is hungry or wet, and they aren’t attended to for hours.
No one looks at, talks to, or smiles at the baby, so the baby feels alone.
A young child gets attention only by acting out or displaying other extreme behaviors.
A young child or baby is mistreated or abused.
Sometimes the child’s needs are met and sometimes they aren’t. The child never knows what to expect.
The infant or young child is hospitalized or separated from his or her parents.
A baby or young child is moved from one caregiver to another (can be the result of adoption, foster care, or the loss of a parent).
The parent is emotionally unavailable because of depression, an illness, or a substance abuse problem.
As the examples show, sometimes the circumstances that cause the attachment problems are unavoidable. But the child is too young to understand what has happened and why. To a young child, it just feels like no one cares and they lose trust in others and the world becomes an unsafe place.
Attachment problems fall on a spectrum, from mild problems that are easily addressed to the most serious form, known as reactive attachment disorder.
The earlier you spot the symptoms of insecure attachment and take steps to repair them, the better. With early detection, you can avoid a more serious problem. Caught in infancy, attachment problems are often easy to correct with the right help and support.
Avoids eye contact
Doesn’t smile
Doesn’t reach out to be picked up
Rejects your efforts to calm, soothe, and connect
Doesn’t seem to notice or care when you leave them alone
Cries inconsolably
Doesn’t coo or make sounds
Doesn’t follow you with his or her eyes
Isn’t interested in playing interactive games or playing with toys
Spend a lot of time rocking or comforting themselves
It’s important to note that the early symptoms of insecure attachment are similar to the early symptoms of other issues such as ADHD and autism. If you spot any of these warning signs, make an appointment with your pediatrician to determine what the problem may be.
It’s common to feel frustration, anxiety, and even anger when faced with a crying baby—especially if your baby wails for hours on end and won’t calm down. Equally frustrating is a baby who seems indifferent, who won’t cuddle or make eye contact with you. In these situations, you need to find ways to get your own stress into balance. When you’re calm and centered, you’ll be better able to figure out what’s going on with your child and soothe his or her cries.
Read: When Baby Won’t Stop Crying: How to Comfort and Soothe an Upset Baby
Children with reactive attachment disorder have been so disrupted in early life that their future relationships are also impaired. They have difficulty relating to others and are often developmentally delayed. Reactive attachment disorder is common in children who have been abused, bounced around in foster care, lived in orphanages, or taken away from their primary caregiver after establishing a bond.
An aversion to touch and physical affection. Children with reactive attachment disorder often flinch, laugh, or even say “Ouch” when touched. Rather than producing positive feelings, touch and affection are perceived as a threat.
Control issues. Most children with reactive attachment disorder go to great lengths to prevent feeling helpless and remain in control. They are often disobedient, defiant, and argumentative.
Anger problems. Anger may be expressed directly, in tantrums or acting out, or through manipulative, passive-aggressive behavior. Children with reactive attachment disorder may hide their anger in socially acceptable actions, like giving a high five that hurts or hugging someone too hard.
Difficulty showing genuine care and affection. For example, children with reactive attachment disorder may act inappropriately affectionate with strangers while displaying little or no affection towards their parents.
An underdeveloped conscience. Children with reactive attachment disorder may act like they don’t have a conscience and fail to show guilt, regret, or remorse after behaving badly.
As children with reactive attachment disorder grow older, they often develop either an inhibited or a disinhibited pattern of symptoms:
Inhibited symptoms of reactive attachment disorder. The child is extremely withdrawn, emotionally detached, and resistant to comforting. The child is aware of what’s going on around him or her—hypervigilant even—but doesn’t react or respond. He or she may push others away, ignore them, or even act out in aggression when others try to get close.
Disinhibited symptoms of reactive attachment disorder. The child doesn’t seem to prefer his or her parents over other people, even strangers. The child seeks comfort and attention from virtually anyone, without distinction. He or she is extremely dependent, acts much younger than his or her age, and may appear chronically anxious.
Parenting a child with insecure attachment or reactive attachment disorder can be exhausting, frustrating, and emotionally trying. It is hard to put your best parenting foot forward without the reassurance of a loving connection with your child. Sometimes you may wonder if your efforts are worth it, but be assured that they are. With time, patience, and concerted effort, attachment disorders can be repaired. The key is to remain calm, yet firm as you interact with your child. This will teach your child that he or she is safe and can trust you.
Have realistic expectations. Helping your child with an attachment disorder may be a long road. Focus on making small steps forward and celebrate every sign of success.
Patience is essential. The process may not be as rapid as you like, and you can expect bumps along the way. But by remaining patient and focusing on small improvements, you create an atmosphere of safety for your child.
Foster a sense of humor and joy. Joy and humor go a long way toward repairing attachment problems and energizing you even in the midst of hard work. Find at least a couple of people or activities that help you laugh and feel good.
Take care of yourself and manage stress. Reduce other demands on your time and make time for yourself. Rest, good nutrition, and parenting breaks help you relax and recharge your batteries so you can give your attention to your child.
Find support and ask for help. Rely on friends, family, community resources, and respite care (if available). Try to ask for help before you really need it to avoid getting stressed to a breaking point. You may also want to consider joining a support group for parents.
Stay positive and hopeful. Be sensitive to the fact that children pick up on feelings. If they sense you’re discouraged, it will be discouraging to them. When you are feeling down, turn to others for reassurance.
If you have adopted a child, you may not have been aware of reactive attachment disorder. Anger or unresponsiveness from your new child can be heartbreaking and difficult to understand. Try to remember that your adopted child isn’t acting out because of lack of love for you. Their experience hasn’t prepared them to bond with you, and they can’t yet recognize you as a source of love and comfort. Your efforts to love them will have an impact—it just may take some time.
Safety is the core issue for children with reactive attachment disorder and other attachment problems. They are distant and distrustful because they feel unsafe in the world. They keep their guard up to protect themselves, but it also prevents them from accepting love and support. So before anything else, it is essential to build up your child’s sense of security. You can accomplish this by establishing clear expectations and rules of behavior, and by responding consistently so your child knows what to expect when he or she acts a certain way and—even more importantly—knows that no matter what happens, you can be counted on.
Set limits and boundaries. Consistent, loving boundaries make the world seem more predictable and less scary to children with attachment problems such as reactive attachment disorder. It’s important that they understand what behavior is expected of them, what is and isn’t acceptable, and what the consequences will be if they disregard the rules. This also teaches them that they have more control over what happens to them than they think.
Take charge, yet remain calm when your child is upset or misbehaving. Remember that “bad” behavior means that your child doesn’t know how to handle what he or she is feeling and needs your help. By staying calm, you show your child that the feeling is manageable. If he or she is being purposefully defiant, follow through with the pre-established consequences in a cool, matter-of-fact manner. But never discipline a child with an attachment disorder when you’re in an emotionally-charged state. This makes the child feel more unsafe and may even reinforce the bad behavior, since it’s clear it pushes your buttons.
Be immediately available to reconnect following a conflict. For children with insecure attachment and attachment disorders, conflict can be especially disturbing. After a conflict or tantrum where you’ve had to discipline your child, be ready to reconnect as soon as he or she is ready. This reinforces your consistency and love, and will help your child develop a trust that you’ll be there through thick and thin.
Own up to mistakes and initiate repair. When you let frustration or anger get the best of you or you do something you realize is insensitive, quickly address the mistake. Your willingness to take responsibility and make amends can strengthen the attachment bond. Children with reactive attachment disorder or other attachment problems need to learn that although you may not be perfect, they will be loved, no matter what.
Try to maintain predictable routines and schedules. A child with an attachment disorder won’t instinctively rely on loved ones, and may feel threatened by transition and inconsistency—for example when traveling or during school vacations. A familiar routine or schedule can provide comfort during times of change.
http://www.drjamesghoodblog.com/?p=1400
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Got a story to tell?
Got a story to tell?
Posted by LK
This was posted to my facebook by Kwazulu. I thought it was a rather nice collection of contact information for people who should know these stories, ie. the great talking heads. So I'm posting it here.
Subject: send your message to world journalist
ABC News, Barbara Walters, 2020@abc.com
ABC News, George Stephanopoulos, thisweek@abc.com
ABC News, John Stossel, 2020@abc.com
ABC News, Nightline, nightline@abcnews.com
ABC News, Ted Koppel, nightline@abc.com
Associated Press, Jennifer Loven, jloven@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Kathleen Carroll (Executive Editor), kcarroll@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Larry Margasak, lmargasak@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Michael Silverman (Managing Editor), msilverman@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Michelle DeArmound, opinion@thewire.http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Nedra Pickler, npickler@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Ron Fournier, rfournier@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Sandra Johnson (Washington Bureau Chief), sjohnson@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Seth Sutel, pr@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Terry Hunt, thunt@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
CBS News, 48 Hours, 48hours@cbsnews.com
CBS News, 60 Minutes II, 60II@cbsnews.com
CBS News, 60 Minutes, 60m@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Bill Plante, bpc@cbsnews.com
CBS News, CBS Evening News with Dan Rather, evening@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Early Show, earlyshow@cbs.com
CBS News, Erin Moriarty, efm@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Face The Nation, ftn@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Mark Knoller, mkx@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Peter Maer, pma@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Rita Braver, rbc@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Sunday Morning, sundays@cbsnews.com
http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08EqLMIc11xPQj565AcMXTMQ;CBSnews.com, Dick Meyer (Editorial Director), grain@cbsnews.com
CNN, Aaron Brown, aaron.brown@turner.com
CNN, American Morning, am@cnn.com
CNN, Anderson Cooper 360, 360@cnn.com
CNN, Andrea Koppel, andrea.koppel@turner.com
CNN, Bill Schneider, bill.schneider@turner.com
CNN, Bruce Morton, bruce.morton@turner.com
CNN, Candy Crowley, candy.crowley@turner.com
CNN, Carol Lin, carol.lin@turner.com
CNN, Crossfire, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Daryn Kagan, daryn.kagan@turner.com
CNN, David Ensor, david.ensor@turner.com
CNN, Daybreak, daybreak@cnn.com
CNN, Howard Kurtz, kurtzh@washpost.com
CNN, In The Money, inthemoney@cnn.com
CNN, Inside Politics, insidepoliticts@cnn.com
CNN, James Carville, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Jeanne Meserve, jeanne.meserve@turner.com
CNN, Jeff Greenfield, jeff.greenfield@cnn.com
CNN, Jim Walton (President of CNN News Group), jim.walton@turner.com
CNN, Judy Woodruff, deirdre.walsh@turner.com
CNN, Kelly Wallace, kelly.wallace@turner.com
CNN, Kyra Phillips, kyra.phillips@turner.com
CNN, Live At CNN, live@cnn.com
CNN, Live From, livefrom@cnn.com
CNN, Live Today, livetoday@cnn.com
CNN, Lou Dobbs, lou.dobbs@turner.com
CNN, Lou Dobbs, loudobbs@cnn.com
CNN, Miles O’Brien, miles.obrien@turner.com
CNN, Moneyline, moneyline@cnn.com
CNN, Newsnight, newsnight@cnn.com
CNN, Paul Begala, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Paula Zahn Now, paulazahnnow@cnn.com
CNN, Paula Zahn, paula.zahn@turner.com
CNN, Paula Zahn, paulazahn@cnn.com
CNN, Rick Davis (Executive Vice President – CNN News Standards and Practices), rick.davis@turner.com
CNN, Robert Novak, robert.novak@turner.com
CNN, Tom Hannon (Political Director), tom.hannon@cnn.com
CNN, Tucker Carlson, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Weekend American Morning, wam@cnn.com
CNN, Wolf Blitzer, wolf@cnn.com
Fox News, After Hours, afterhours@foxnews.com
Fox News, At Large with Geraldo Rivera, atlarge@foxnews.com
Fox News, Brian Wilson, brian.wilson@foxnews.com
Fox News, Brit Hume, brit.hume@foxnews.com
Fox News, Bulls & Bears, bullsandbears@foxnews.com
Fox News, Cashin’In, cash@foxnews.com
Fox News, Cavuto on Business, cavuto@foxnews.com
Fox News, Collins Spencer, collins.spencer@foxnews.com
Fox News, Comments, comments@foxnews.com
Fox News, DaySide with Linda Vester, dayside@foxnews.com
Fox News, Forbes on FOX, forbes@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX & Friends, friends@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX Magazine, foxmagazine@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX News Live, feedback@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX News Sunday, fns@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX News Watch, newswatch@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX Report with Shepard Smith, foxreport@foxnews.com
Fox News, Hannity & Colmes (Alan Colmes), Colmes@foxnews.com
Fox News, Hannity & Colmes (Sean Hannity), Hannity@foxnews.com
Fox News, Heartland w/ John Kasich, heartland@foxnews.com
Fox News, James Rosen, james.rosen@foxnews.com
Fox News, Jim Angle, jim.angle@foxnews.com
Fox News, Major Garrett, major.garrett@foxnews.com
Fox News, Molly Henneberg, molly.henneberg@foxnews.com
Fox News, On the Record with Greta, ontherecord@foxnews.com
Fox News, On the Record with Greta, ontherecord@foxnews.com
Fox News, Special Report with Brit Hume, special@foxnews.com
Fox News, Studio B with Shepard Smith, studiob@foxnews.com
Fox News, The Beltway Boys, beltway@foxnews.com
Fox News, The Big Story with John Gibson, myword@foxnews.com
Fox News, The O’Reilly Factor, oreilly@foxnews.com
Fox News, Viewer Services, viewerservices@foxnews.com
Fox News, War Stories, warstories@foxnews.com
Fox News, Wendell Goler, wendell.goler@foxnews.com
Fox News, Your World with Neil Cavuto, cavuto@foxnews.com
MSNBC, Alison Stewart, wor newsnight@cnn.com ld@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Amy Robach, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Bob Kur, robert.kur@nbc.com
MSNBC, Chris Jansing, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Chris Matthews, hardball@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Contessa Brewer, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Countdown with Keith Olbermann, countdown@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Dan Abrams, abramsreport@msnbc.com
MSNBC, David Schuster, dshuster@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Deborah Norville, norville@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Deborah Norville, norville@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Dennis Sullivan (Executive Editor – Campaign Coverage), dennis.sullivan@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Don Imus, imus@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Don Imus, imus@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Hardball with Chris Matthews, hardball@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Imus in the Morning, Imus@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Joe Scarborough, joe@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Joe Trippi, jtrippi@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Keith Olbermann, countdown@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Lester Holt Live, Lesterholt@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Lester Holt, lester.holt@msnbc.com
MSNBC, MSNBC Investigates, msnbcinvestigates@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Randy Meier, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Richard Kaplan (President), feedback@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Ron Reagan, rreagan@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Scarborough Country, joe@msnbc.com
NBC News, Dateline, dateline@nbc.com
NBC News, Meet The Press (Tim Russert), mtp@nbc.com
NBC News, Nightly News with Tom Brokaw, nightly@nbc.com
NBC News, Today Show, today@nbc.com
Posted by LK at 9:34 AM
http://legallykidnapped.blogspot.com/2010/08/got-story-to-tell.html
Posted by LK
This was posted to my facebook by Kwazulu. I thought it was a rather nice collection of contact information for people who should know these stories, ie. the great talking heads. So I'm posting it here.
Subject: send your message to world journalist
ABC News, Barbara Walters, 2020@abc.com
ABC News, George Stephanopoulos, thisweek@abc.com
ABC News, John Stossel, 2020@abc.com
ABC News, Nightline, nightline@abcnews.com
ABC News, Ted Koppel, nightline@abc.com
Associated Press, Jennifer Loven, jloven@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Kathleen Carroll (Executive Editor), kcarroll@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Larry Margasak, lmargasak@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Michael Silverman (Managing Editor), msilverman@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Michelle DeArmound, opinion@thewire.http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Nedra Pickler, npickler@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Ron Fournier, rfournier@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Sandra Johnson (Washington Bureau Chief), sjohnson@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Seth Sutel, pr@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
Associated Press, Terry Hunt, thunt@http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08rtqe1q-RyOL_-cyL4FkCVQ;ap.org
CBS News, 48 Hours, 48hours@cbsnews.com
CBS News, 60 Minutes II, 60II@cbsnews.com
CBS News, 60 Minutes, 60m@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Bill Plante, bpc@cbsnews.com
CBS News, CBS Evening News with Dan Rather, evening@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Early Show, earlyshow@cbs.com
CBS News, Erin Moriarty, efm@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Face The Nation, ftn@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Mark Knoller, mkx@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Peter Maer, pma@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Rita Braver, rbc@cbsnews.com
CBS News, Sunday Morning, sundays@cbsnews.com
http://www.facebook.com/l/6cc08EqLMIc11xPQj565AcMXTMQ;CBSnews.com, Dick Meyer (Editorial Director), grain@cbsnews.com
CNN, Aaron Brown, aaron.brown@turner.com
CNN, American Morning, am@cnn.com
CNN, Anderson Cooper 360, 360@cnn.com
CNN, Andrea Koppel, andrea.koppel@turner.com
CNN, Bill Schneider, bill.schneider@turner.com
CNN, Bruce Morton, bruce.morton@turner.com
CNN, Candy Crowley, candy.crowley@turner.com
CNN, Carol Lin, carol.lin@turner.com
CNN, Crossfire, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Daryn Kagan, daryn.kagan@turner.com
CNN, David Ensor, david.ensor@turner.com
CNN, Daybreak, daybreak@cnn.com
CNN, Howard Kurtz, kurtzh@washpost.com
CNN, In The Money, inthemoney@cnn.com
CNN, Inside Politics, insidepoliticts@cnn.com
CNN, James Carville, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Jeanne Meserve, jeanne.meserve@turner.com
CNN, Jeff Greenfield, jeff.greenfield@cnn.com
CNN, Jim Walton (President of CNN News Group), jim.walton@turner.com
CNN, Judy Woodruff, deirdre.walsh@turner.com
CNN, Kelly Wallace, kelly.wallace@turner.com
CNN, Kyra Phillips, kyra.phillips@turner.com
CNN, Live At CNN, live@cnn.com
CNN, Live From, livefrom@cnn.com
CNN, Live Today, livetoday@cnn.com
CNN, Lou Dobbs, lou.dobbs@turner.com
CNN, Lou Dobbs, loudobbs@cnn.com
CNN, Miles O’Brien, miles.obrien@turner.com
CNN, Moneyline, moneyline@cnn.com
CNN, Newsnight, newsnight@cnn.com
CNN, Paul Begala, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Paula Zahn Now, paulazahnnow@cnn.com
CNN, Paula Zahn, paula.zahn@turner.com
CNN, Paula Zahn, paulazahn@cnn.com
CNN, Rick Davis (Executive Vice President – CNN News Standards and Practices), rick.davis@turner.com
CNN, Robert Novak, robert.novak@turner.com
CNN, Tom Hannon (Political Director), tom.hannon@cnn.com
CNN, Tucker Carlson, crossfire@cnn.com
CNN, Weekend American Morning, wam@cnn.com
CNN, Wolf Blitzer, wolf@cnn.com
Fox News, After Hours, afterhours@foxnews.com
Fox News, At Large with Geraldo Rivera, atlarge@foxnews.com
Fox News, Brian Wilson, brian.wilson@foxnews.com
Fox News, Brit Hume, brit.hume@foxnews.com
Fox News, Bulls & Bears, bullsandbears@foxnews.com
Fox News, Cashin’In, cash@foxnews.com
Fox News, Cavuto on Business, cavuto@foxnews.com
Fox News, Collins Spencer, collins.spencer@foxnews.com
Fox News, Comments, comments@foxnews.com
Fox News, DaySide with Linda Vester, dayside@foxnews.com
Fox News, Forbes on FOX, forbes@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX & Friends, friends@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX Magazine, foxmagazine@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX News Live, feedback@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX News Sunday, fns@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX News Watch, newswatch@foxnews.com
Fox News, FOX Report with Shepard Smith, foxreport@foxnews.com
Fox News, Hannity & Colmes (Alan Colmes), Colmes@foxnews.com
Fox News, Hannity & Colmes (Sean Hannity), Hannity@foxnews.com
Fox News, Heartland w/ John Kasich, heartland@foxnews.com
Fox News, James Rosen, james.rosen@foxnews.com
Fox News, Jim Angle, jim.angle@foxnews.com
Fox News, Major Garrett, major.garrett@foxnews.com
Fox News, Molly Henneberg, molly.henneberg@foxnews.com
Fox News, On the Record with Greta, ontherecord@foxnews.com
Fox News, On the Record with Greta, ontherecord@foxnews.com
Fox News, Special Report with Brit Hume, special@foxnews.com
Fox News, Studio B with Shepard Smith, studiob@foxnews.com
Fox News, The Beltway Boys, beltway@foxnews.com
Fox News, The Big Story with John Gibson, myword@foxnews.com
Fox News, The O’Reilly Factor, oreilly@foxnews.com
Fox News, Viewer Services, viewerservices@foxnews.com
Fox News, War Stories, warstories@foxnews.com
Fox News, Wendell Goler, wendell.goler@foxnews.com
Fox News, Your World with Neil Cavuto, cavuto@foxnews.com
MSNBC, Alison Stewart, wor newsnight@cnn.com ld@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Amy Robach, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Bob Kur, robert.kur@nbc.com
MSNBC, Chris Jansing, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Chris Matthews, hardball@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Contessa Brewer, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Countdown with Keith Olbermann, countdown@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Dan Abrams, abramsreport@msnbc.com
MSNBC, David Schuster, dshuster@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Deborah Norville, norville@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Deborah Norville, norville@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Dennis Sullivan (Executive Editor – Campaign Coverage), dennis.sullivan@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Don Imus, imus@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Don Imus, imus@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Hardball with Chris Matthews, hardball@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Imus in the Morning, Imus@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Joe Scarborough, joe@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Joe Trippi, jtrippi@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Keith Olbermann, countdown@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Lester Holt Live, Lesterholt@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Lester Holt, lester.holt@msnbc.com
MSNBC, MSNBC Investigates, msnbcinvestigates@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Randy Meier, world@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Richard Kaplan (President), feedback@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Ron Reagan, rreagan@msnbc.com
MSNBC, Scarborough Country, joe@msnbc.com
NBC News, Dateline, dateline@nbc.com
NBC News, Meet The Press (Tim Russert), mtp@nbc.com
NBC News, Nightly News with Tom Brokaw, nightly@nbc.com
NBC News, Today Show, today@nbc.com
Posted by LK at 9:34 AM
http://legallykidnapped.blogspot.com/2010/08/got-story-to-tell.html
Who HATES YOUR FAMILY?
AFRA EDITORIALS
By Leonard Henderson
August 7, 2010
Who HATES YOUR FAMILY?
Look who ISN'T supporting SR 519
People may be completely ignorant about it, but there is a political system in the world that HATES families.
That is Communism. Don't believe me? See the Communist Manifesto of 1848, written by Karl Marx-
http://revolution2.us/content/docs/history/communist/manifesto.htm#family
Abolition of the family! Even the most radical flare up at this infamous proposal of the Communists.
On what foundation is the present family, the bourgeois family, based? On capital, on private gain. In its completely developed form, this family exists only among the bourgeoisie. But this state of things finds its complement in the practical absence of the family among proletarians, and in public prostitution.
The bourgeois family will vanish as a matter of course when its complement vanishes, and both will vanish with the vanishing of capital.
Do you charge us with wanting to stop the exploitation of children by their parents? To this crime we plead guilty.
But, you say, we destroy the most hallowed of relations, when we replace home education by social.
And your education! Is not that also social, and determined by the social conditions under which you educate, by the intervention direct or indirect, of society, by means of schools, etc.? The Communists have not intended the intervention of society in education; they do but seek to alter the character of that intervention, and to rescue education from the influence of the ruling class.
The bourgeois claptrap about the family and education, about the hallowed correlation of parents and child, becomes all the more disgusting, the more, by the action of Modern Industry, all the family ties among the proletarians are torn asunder, and their children transformed into simple articles of commerce and instruments of labor.
You might say "Aw, that was a long time ago. Communism has failed." And you would be wrong. Adherents to Communism are alive and well, and Communism has merely failed wherever it has been tried. The only place left on earth that is 100% Communist is North Korea.
The adherents of Communism claim that it has just "Never been done right", and by gawd they are going to show us how to "do it right" here in the USA.
In 1974, these people started taking over. Old Hippie Freaks. The very first communist things that came down the pike was building permits. And CAPTA '74.
I can almost hear the critics now (not really. Nobody has tried to debate me for about 2 years. Maybe the word went out that I eat these morons for breakfast)- "Aw Leonard, you CAN'T mean that Children's "Protective" "Services" are COMMUNIST!
Yes, as a matter of fact, I do mean that CPS is COMMUNIST. I can say it without stuttering. Assuming that you have read the above quote from the Communist Manifesto, I want to bring your attention to a quote from Mexico last year-
Tuesday February 3, 2009
United Nations Population Fund Leader Says Family Breakdown
is a Triumph for Human Rights
By Matthew Cullinan Hoffman
MEXICO CITY, February 3, 2009 (LifeSiteNews.com) - A leader in the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) has declared that the breakdown of traditional families, far from being a “crisis,” is actually a triumph for human rights.
Speaking at a colloquium held last month at Colegio Mexico in Mexico City, UNFPA representative Arie Hoekman denounced the idea that high rates of divorce and out-of-wedlock births represent a social crisis, claiming that they represent instead the triumph of “human rights” against “patriarchy.”
"In the eyes of conservative forces, these changes mean that the family is in crisis," he said. "In crisis? More than a crisis, we are in the presence of a weakening of the patriarchal structure, as a result of the disappearance of the economic base that sustains it and because of the rise of new values centered in the recognition of fundamental human rights." FULL STORY
NOTE what the Communist Manifesto said on the subject. Same thing? I certainly think so.
So, who HATES your family?
Have a good look at the ParentalRights.org page Stop-the-CRC Resolution Status Board.
Please observe that NOT ONE SINGLE DEMOCRAT has signed on.
I am prepared to say without reservation that the Democrats couldn't give a shit less about families, and they are 100% in support of the Convention on the Rights on the Child. I am prepared to say clearly and succinctly that Democrats are 100% in favor of denying American children their Constitutional Rights, and 100% in favor of kidnapping them from their families, doping them out of their heads and dumping them on the streets on their 18th birthday with their only skill being a "consumer of public services".
If you are a Democrat, don't bother cussing me out about it. If you think the Democrats are so great, YOU get after shaming YOUR Democrat Senator to sign onto SR 519.
I don't think any of them will.
Prove me wrong.
Looking for info on S.R. 519?
Now with 31 co-sponsoring Senators (34 needed)
Wondering what is S.R. 519 and S.J. Res 16 and H.J. Res. 42?
COMMENT on this story
"Better be wise by the misfortunes of others than by your own." --Aesop (c. 550 B.C.) legendary Greek fabulist
If CPS hasn't attacked YOUR FAMILY yet, see If you are ever approached by anyone from social services.... and WHEN THEY COME AFTER YOU
Learn as much as you can, as fast as you can at How To Fight CPS
Get YOUR VERSION OF HISTORY ON THE RECORD with your Sworn Declaration
Leonard Henderson, co-founder
American Family Rights Association
http://familyrights.us
"Until Every Child Comes Home" ©
"The Voice of America's Families" ©
I am not a lawyer and I do not pretend to give legal advice. If you need legal advice, see AFRA's Lawyer Friends who certainly are not pretenders (http://familyrights.us/info/law) I merely relate the things I learned in the past that seemed to work in my own case or things that others have related to me that worked in their cases. I provide information for free and do not expect to receive any form of payment or reward on this side of heaven. Therefore, DO NOT rely on this information as legal advice. Real Legal advice would come from a real lawyer who hates CPS and prepares a VIGOROUS DEFENSE against a negative (proving nothing happened) instead of talking you into a plea bargain (http://familyrights.us/bin/The_Problem_with_Plea_Bargaining.htm)
http://familyrights.us / news / archive / 2010 / august / who_hates_family.html
http://familyrights.us/news/archive/2010/august/who_hates_family.html
By Leonard Henderson
August 7, 2010
Who HATES YOUR FAMILY?
Look who ISN'T supporting SR 519
People may be completely ignorant about it, but there is a political system in the world that HATES families.
That is Communism. Don't believe me? See the Communist Manifesto of 1848, written by Karl Marx-
http://revolution2.us/content/docs/history/communist/manifesto.htm#family
Abolition of the family! Even the most radical flare up at this infamous proposal of the Communists.
On what foundation is the present family, the bourgeois family, based? On capital, on private gain. In its completely developed form, this family exists only among the bourgeoisie. But this state of things finds its complement in the practical absence of the family among proletarians, and in public prostitution.
The bourgeois family will vanish as a matter of course when its complement vanishes, and both will vanish with the vanishing of capital.
Do you charge us with wanting to stop the exploitation of children by their parents? To this crime we plead guilty.
But, you say, we destroy the most hallowed of relations, when we replace home education by social.
And your education! Is not that also social, and determined by the social conditions under which you educate, by the intervention direct or indirect, of society, by means of schools, etc.? The Communists have not intended the intervention of society in education; they do but seek to alter the character of that intervention, and to rescue education from the influence of the ruling class.
The bourgeois claptrap about the family and education, about the hallowed correlation of parents and child, becomes all the more disgusting, the more, by the action of Modern Industry, all the family ties among the proletarians are torn asunder, and their children transformed into simple articles of commerce and instruments of labor.
You might say "Aw, that was a long time ago. Communism has failed." And you would be wrong. Adherents to Communism are alive and well, and Communism has merely failed wherever it has been tried. The only place left on earth that is 100% Communist is North Korea.
The adherents of Communism claim that it has just "Never been done right", and by gawd they are going to show us how to "do it right" here in the USA.
In 1974, these people started taking over. Old Hippie Freaks. The very first communist things that came down the pike was building permits. And CAPTA '74.
I can almost hear the critics now (not really. Nobody has tried to debate me for about 2 years. Maybe the word went out that I eat these morons for breakfast)- "Aw Leonard, you CAN'T mean that Children's "Protective" "Services" are COMMUNIST!
Yes, as a matter of fact, I do mean that CPS is COMMUNIST. I can say it without stuttering. Assuming that you have read the above quote from the Communist Manifesto, I want to bring your attention to a quote from Mexico last year-
Tuesday February 3, 2009
United Nations Population Fund Leader Says Family Breakdown
is a Triumph for Human Rights
By Matthew Cullinan Hoffman
MEXICO CITY, February 3, 2009 (LifeSiteNews.com) - A leader in the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) has declared that the breakdown of traditional families, far from being a “crisis,” is actually a triumph for human rights.
Speaking at a colloquium held last month at Colegio Mexico in Mexico City, UNFPA representative Arie Hoekman denounced the idea that high rates of divorce and out-of-wedlock births represent a social crisis, claiming that they represent instead the triumph of “human rights” against “patriarchy.”
"In the eyes of conservative forces, these changes mean that the family is in crisis," he said. "In crisis? More than a crisis, we are in the presence of a weakening of the patriarchal structure, as a result of the disappearance of the economic base that sustains it and because of the rise of new values centered in the recognition of fundamental human rights." FULL STORY
NOTE what the Communist Manifesto said on the subject. Same thing? I certainly think so.
So, who HATES your family?
Have a good look at the ParentalRights.org page Stop-the-CRC Resolution Status Board.
Please observe that NOT ONE SINGLE DEMOCRAT has signed on.
I am prepared to say without reservation that the Democrats couldn't give a shit less about families, and they are 100% in support of the Convention on the Rights on the Child. I am prepared to say clearly and succinctly that Democrats are 100% in favor of denying American children their Constitutional Rights, and 100% in favor of kidnapping them from their families, doping them out of their heads and dumping them on the streets on their 18th birthday with their only skill being a "consumer of public services".
If you are a Democrat, don't bother cussing me out about it. If you think the Democrats are so great, YOU get after shaming YOUR Democrat Senator to sign onto SR 519.
I don't think any of them will.
Prove me wrong.
Looking for info on S.R. 519?
Now with 31 co-sponsoring Senators (34 needed)
Wondering what is S.R. 519 and S.J. Res 16 and H.J. Res. 42?
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"Better be wise by the misfortunes of others than by your own." --Aesop (c. 550 B.C.) legendary Greek fabulist
If CPS hasn't attacked YOUR FAMILY yet, see If you are ever approached by anyone from social services.... and WHEN THEY COME AFTER YOU
Learn as much as you can, as fast as you can at How To Fight CPS
Get YOUR VERSION OF HISTORY ON THE RECORD with your Sworn Declaration
Leonard Henderson, co-founder
American Family Rights Association
http://familyrights.us
"Until Every Child Comes Home" ©
"The Voice of America's Families" ©
I am not a lawyer and I do not pretend to give legal advice. If you need legal advice, see AFRA's Lawyer Friends who certainly are not pretenders (http://familyrights.us/info/law) I merely relate the things I learned in the past that seemed to work in my own case or things that others have related to me that worked in their cases. I provide information for free and do not expect to receive any form of payment or reward on this side of heaven. Therefore, DO NOT rely on this information as legal advice. Real Legal advice would come from a real lawyer who hates CPS and prepares a VIGOROUS DEFENSE against a negative (proving nothing happened) instead of talking you into a plea bargain (http://familyrights.us/bin/The_Problem_with_Plea_Bargaining.htm)
http://familyrights.us / news / archive / 2010 / august / who_hates_family.html
http://familyrights.us/news/archive/2010/august/who_hates_family.html
'Orphan Train' reveals origins of U.S. foster care
'Orphan Train' reveals origins of U.S. foster care
August 06, 2010 11:31:00 PM
By Nancy Pasternack/Appeal-Democrat
He doesn't know a thing about his grandmother's beginnings. But Olivehurst resident John Leeder is sure her life was not a happy one.
As a small child, she had been placed on what became known as The Orphan Train.
Between 1854 and 1929, more than 200,000 orphaned and abandoned children boarded railway cars in Boston and New York City and were distributed at train stations across America — given away to practically anyone who would have them.
Leeder, 60, has never learned which stop was his grandmother's final destination.
"My mom never knew what state she had lived in," Leeder says.
This evening, writer/humanities scholar Alison Moore, and musician/audio-visual technician Phil Lancaster, both of Austin, Texas, will perform a multimedia show in Marysville called, "Riders on the Orphan Train."
The combination of music, storytelling and video is designed to bring awareness to this little-known chapter of American history.
Moore, a former assistant professor of Engish/creative writing at the University of Arizona, has developed public outreach programs for the Orphan Train Heritage Society of America Inc., and performed since 1998 with Lancaster in more than 500 museums, libraries and schools in Arkansas, Texas and Arizona.
The story of the Orphan Train Movement is recognized as the beginning of documented foster care in America.
The program was initiated by reformer Charles Loving Brace, operator of New York City's Children's Aid Society.
On farms, and in rural towns across the country, he believed destitute children living in the streets and orphanages in Northeast urban centers could have room, food, safety and schooling, according to a Website for the National Orphan Train Complex Inc. in Concordia, Kan.
A letter published in the Cleveland Morning Leader in April 1857 describes a typical scenario in East Coast cities during the Industrial Revolution as "the saddest procession ... composed of the children of poverty, vice, crime and degradation ..."
"These neglected, suffering, crushed little ones appeal to us as no other can," it continues.
But for many of those orphans taken at train depots across the country, the dream of life with loving parents, was in fact, merely a life of indentured servitude.
Leeder believes his own grandmother suffered brutal abuse at the hands of her guardian.
"I hope most of the other (orphan train riders') stories were happy ones," he says. "But I wonder how many, like my grandmother, got used."
She gave birth at a young age to Leeder's mother, who at age 10, also became an orphan when Leeder's grandmother died of pneumonia.
It was 1933 in the midst of the Great Depression, and until that time, Leeder says, "she never went to school a day in her life and never owned a toothbrush."
After three years in an orphanage, she was adopted and taken to live on a farm in Mississippi, where her luck turned around for the better, Leeder says.
A friend attempted to do some family research on the subject, he says.
The work was difficult because few orphan train riders had documents to identify a date and place of birth, let alone parents.
'Riders of the Orphan train'
WHEN: 7 p.m. today
WHERE: St. John's Episcopal Church, Eighth and D streets, Marysville
See archived 'Local News' stories »
http://www.appeal-democrat.com/news/train-97823-orphan-across.html
August 06, 2010 11:31:00 PM
By Nancy Pasternack/Appeal-Democrat
He doesn't know a thing about his grandmother's beginnings. But Olivehurst resident John Leeder is sure her life was not a happy one.
As a small child, she had been placed on what became known as The Orphan Train.
Between 1854 and 1929, more than 200,000 orphaned and abandoned children boarded railway cars in Boston and New York City and were distributed at train stations across America — given away to practically anyone who would have them.
Leeder, 60, has never learned which stop was his grandmother's final destination.
"My mom never knew what state she had lived in," Leeder says.
This evening, writer/humanities scholar Alison Moore, and musician/audio-visual technician Phil Lancaster, both of Austin, Texas, will perform a multimedia show in Marysville called, "Riders on the Orphan Train."
The combination of music, storytelling and video is designed to bring awareness to this little-known chapter of American history.
Moore, a former assistant professor of Engish/creative writing at the University of Arizona, has developed public outreach programs for the Orphan Train Heritage Society of America Inc., and performed since 1998 with Lancaster in more than 500 museums, libraries and schools in Arkansas, Texas and Arizona.
The story of the Orphan Train Movement is recognized as the beginning of documented foster care in America.
The program was initiated by reformer Charles Loving Brace, operator of New York City's Children's Aid Society.
On farms, and in rural towns across the country, he believed destitute children living in the streets and orphanages in Northeast urban centers could have room, food, safety and schooling, according to a Website for the National Orphan Train Complex Inc. in Concordia, Kan.
A letter published in the Cleveland Morning Leader in April 1857 describes a typical scenario in East Coast cities during the Industrial Revolution as "the saddest procession ... composed of the children of poverty, vice, crime and degradation ..."
"These neglected, suffering, crushed little ones appeal to us as no other can," it continues.
But for many of those orphans taken at train depots across the country, the dream of life with loving parents, was in fact, merely a life of indentured servitude.
Leeder believes his own grandmother suffered brutal abuse at the hands of her guardian.
"I hope most of the other (orphan train riders') stories were happy ones," he says. "But I wonder how many, like my grandmother, got used."
She gave birth at a young age to Leeder's mother, who at age 10, also became an orphan when Leeder's grandmother died of pneumonia.
It was 1933 in the midst of the Great Depression, and until that time, Leeder says, "she never went to school a day in her life and never owned a toothbrush."
After three years in an orphanage, she was adopted and taken to live on a farm in Mississippi, where her luck turned around for the better, Leeder says.
A friend attempted to do some family research on the subject, he says.
The work was difficult because few orphan train riders had documents to identify a date and place of birth, let alone parents.
'Riders of the Orphan train'
WHEN: 7 p.m. today
WHERE: St. John's Episcopal Church, Eighth and D streets, Marysville
See archived 'Local News' stories »
http://www.appeal-democrat.com/news/train-97823-orphan-across.html
Big Ma Ma Gonna Be Crying
Would Foster Stranger's REALLY love these children if they weren't being paid blood money to hold them hostage for CPS/DCYF?
Will they feel the same way when the money run's out?
Will they let these children stay in their homes once they turn eighteen? No way! Only REAL biological families will let their child stay and NEVER throw them out! REAL parent's are NOT in it for the MONEY like MOST Foster Stranger's are!
Wouldn't services to at risk families be much cheaper?
http://www.legallykidnapped.blogspot.com/
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